Stop Making Other People Feel Better!
When a friend has a problem, we often try to comfort them or help them fix it. Sometimes that’s exactly the wrong thing to do.
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Are You Really Close To Other People?
3 minute read How close are you really to the people in your life? How much do they know about you? How open are you with your feelings?...
The Agony Of Using Dating Apps
Lots of people on dating apps behave badly. Here’s why.
Ossan’s Love and Hong Kong’s Revolution
It’s very hard to be gay in a conservative society like Hong Kong. A new TV drama is starting to change things.
Judge, Jury and Executioner: The Pitfalls of Couples Counselling
Couples therapists too often buy into the narrative our clients offer to explain their troubles. When that happens, therapy doesn’t end well
Breaking The Jealousy Cycle
Irrational or intense jealousy stems from a number of possible sources — all of which can be fixed.
Jealousy Cycles: The Self Fulfilling Prophecy
Intense jealousy is agonizing for both sides, and often destroys relationships. Understanding what’s going on is the first step to fixing th
If You Really Loved Me…
Your romantic partner may annoy you in many small ways — but don’t give up. The world of animal training can help.
Talking About Feelings: The Antidote to Mind Reading
We often think we know why our romantic partner behaves the way they do — and we’re usually wrong. Which is why we need to talk about feelin
The Perils of Reading Your Partner’s Mind
Using our partner’s behavior to deduce their intentions and motivation is natural. Natural, but dangerous.
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