Life Is Like A Three Legged Stool: Work, Love and Friendship
Money, power, fame and material possessions are false gods. Building a balanced life requires other things.
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You Get The Behavior You Tolerate
We may try hard to change our partner’s annoying behavior — but the reason nothing changes is because we’re actually tolerating that behavio
Why Your Partner Meets Your Worst Expectations: Relationships and the Power of Projective Identific
It’s easy and tempting to blame our partner for their poor behavior. But sometimes we are an unconscious party to that bad behavior.
“Change!” “No, YOU Change”: Relationships, Criticism and Acceptance
Conflict in romantic relationships almost always has the same subtext: A desire that the other person change. That feels like criticism, m
“Why Won’t You Do More!?” How Couples Over-Under Function
Do you feel you’re responsible for everything in your relationship? Or are you on the other side, feeling that your partner takes over? Th
“You’re Right!” Couples, Conflict and Counselling
When we fight, we try to convince our romantic partner that we’re right and they’re wrong. Could it be that both sides are right?
Why We Behave The Way We Do: Conditioning, The Unconscious and Pavlov’s Dogs
We know that our past influences how we feel and act today. But it’s not always obvious to us how and when that’s happening.
Why Forgiveness Is Overrated
We’re often told to forgive each other. But forgiveness isn’t easy, and it’s not enough either. There's a better way.
Four Rules to Make Life Easier: Assertiveness, Relationships and Control
A checklist to see if you have a problem with being assertive — and some help in getting you past that problem.
Five Ways We Avoid Intimacy
Really letting another person into our lives is a wonderful but risky experience. Here are five common ways some of us avoid the risk — and
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