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Keeping Up Appearances
Many of us pretend to be doing fine when we’re actually feeling awful. Keeping up appearances has a terrible cost.


“What Do I Say?” Talking About Depression and Suicide
Talking to someone who is depressed or even suicidal can be difficult and frightening. There are a couple of simple rules to follow.


Judgement, Character Flaws and Being Human
Most of us judge others harshly for their flaws. And we’re no less harsh on ourselves. It’s time to lighten up.


Why Asking For and Granting Favors Can Help You Live Longer
Doing favors for others can make you like them more. Asking for favors can make others like you more. Here’s how that works — and why you sh


Want Your Loved One To Change? Stop Criticizing
When you ask your loved one to change, there’s usually at least a hint of criticism in the request. Removing that criticism can make a world

Life Is Like A Three Legged Stool: Work, Love and Friendship
Money, power, fame and material possessions are false gods. Building a balanced life requires other things.


Expats and Repatriation: Five Rules To Ensure A Smooth Re-Entry
Re-connecting with friends & family at home after an expat assignment is a challenge. Here's why it can be hard, and 5 ways to make


Keeping Up With The Joneses: Four Ways To Step Away From The Rat Race
We’re hard-wired to compare ourselves with others, whether we live in a big city or the wilderness. But we don’t have to let that run our l


“Doing Fine” When We’re Not: Intimacy, Competition and Shame
Sometimes we’d rather die than let other people know we’re feeling bad. What’s behind this, and how does it keep us in our cycle of sadness

Death and Denial: Why We Try To Blame The Victim
People often ask insensitive questions at the news of someone’s untimely death. Do we really need to know if the deceased was overweight, sm
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