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If you’ve decided to look for a counsellor (or psychotherapist, or psychologist…the terms are pretty much interchangeable as I explain below), you’re probably thinking “What kind of counsellor do I look for?” as well as “How do I find a good one?” Most people just close their eyes and pick someone, hoping that they’ll get lucky.
But picking a therapist is not like picking a doctor. It’s not just a matter of how much knowledge they have: it’s much more about their personality and how they work with you. You may not care much if your doctor is brusque and unfriendly, but I can pretty much guarantee your therapy will fail if your counsellor has those characteristics.
There are three areas you should pay attention to: First, how to find a good counsellor. Second, once you’ve met them, figuring out if your counsellor is right for you. (A good counsellor for someone else isn't necessarily good for you.) Finally,