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How Relationships Die: Conflict, Communication and Motivations
Relationships rarely go from hero to zero overnight. Rather, they die a death of a thousand cuts.


You Get The Behavior You Tolerate
We try hard to change our partner’s annoying behavior — but the reason we fail is because we’re actually tolerating that behavior.


Why Your Partner Meets Your Worst Expectations: Relationships and the Power of Projective Identific
It’s easy and tempting to blame our partner for their poor behavior. But sometimes we are an unconscious party to that bad behavior.


“Change!” “No, YOU Change”: Relationships, Criticism and Acceptance
Conflict in romantic relationships almost always has the same subtext: A desire that the other person change. That feels like criticism, m


“Why Won’t You Do More!?” How Couples Over-Under Function
When one partner is highly competent, and the other is incompetent, resentment is going to build.


“You’re Right!” Couples, Conflict and Counselling
When we fight, we try to convince our romantic partner that we’re right and they’re wrong. Could it be that both sides are right?


Why Forgiveness Is Overrated
We’re often told to forgive each other. But forgiveness isn’t easy, and it’s not enough either. There's a better way.


Five Ways We Avoid Intimacy
Really letting someone into our lives is a wonderful but risky experience. Here are five ways some avoid the risk — and lose the wonder.


Six Steps To Stop Money From Ruining Your Relationship
Money is a source of conflict in most relationships. Here’s why that’s so, and what we can do about it.


Eight Things You Should (And Shouldn't) Say: Communication, Friendship And Better Relationships
When there's friction with our friends, it's possible that it's coming from the way we're communicating when they're struggling.
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