
Lost Connections: The Real Cause of Depression
Maybe depression has less to do a chemical imbalance, and more to do with an imbalance in our social connections, our work and our values.

Why Asking For and Granting Favors Can Help You Live Longer
Doing favors for others can make you like them more. Asking for favors can make others like you more. Here’s how that works — and why you sh

You Are Not Responsible For Your Feelings
As children, we’re often told we shouldn’t be angry or jealous or hateful. And as adults, we tell ourselves the same thing — and feel bad w

Experience Is What You Get When You Didn’t Get What You Wanted
Life is full of disappointments. But a change of mindset can take the sting away.

Borrowing Happiness From Tomorrow: The Trap of Addictive Behaviors
The things we do today to make ourselves feel temporarily happier often make our tomorrows far worse. That can lead to a cycle of self dest

Life Is Like A Three Legged Stool: Work, Love and Friendship
Money, power, fame and material possessions are false gods. Building a balanced life requires other things.

Keeping Up With The Joneses: Four Ways To Step Away From The Rat Race
We’re hard-wired to compare ourselves with others, whether we live in a big city or the wilderness. But we don’t have to let that run our l

Why We Behave The Way We Do: Conditioning, The Unconscious and Pavlov’s Dogs
We know that our past influences how we feel and act today. But it’s not always obvious to us how and when that’s happening.

Achievement and Self Esteem: What Tiger, Elephant and Snowplow Parents Should Know
Do we build our children’s self esteem by pushing for achievements, or by praising their achievements? There’s a third way.

Why We Don’t Even Try: Laziness, Determination and Learned Helplessness
We judge others for their laziness, timidity, inefficiency and lack of determination. But something called Learned Helplessness can be a be